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Gentlemen, this one’s for you

Wonder no more what women want

Recently I came across a story by Sean Kernan entitled ‘I still don’t understand women’s taste in men’.

Poor Sean, the guy has been around the block a few times and I can’t blame him for being confused. He’s looking for a nice lady, he’s turned to women to make him understand women, but he still can’t figure them out.

He should have come to me, I could have helped him out in under 60 seconds. If he had asked me what do women want I would have told him … money.

Ladies everywhere will shake their heads vehemently, stating “That’s not true. Not me, I don’t care about money.” And I’m sure that’s true, some women do care about the man more than his bank account, but let’s look at things in general.

Let’s put it to the test.

Let’s say that we put Sean in this beautiful Lamborghini and have him rolling up to a club. I am quite sure that women will fall over themselves to be with him.

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Let’s say that he takes a lady shopping, pauses in front of Tiffany’s and says “See anything you like? If you fancy that ring I’ll get it for you.”

Do you think she’s going to let go of him? A guy who drives a Lamborghini and places a four-carat diamond on her finger … you better believe it that she’s going to hang on for dear life.

I don’t know what Sean does for a living, but let’s say that we create a profile online for him and instead of telling the truth we’re going to lie through our teeth.

As a profile picture, we’re going to have him standing next to his beautiful Lamborghini, in front of a mansion, preferably in an Armani suit and sporting a Rolex wristwatch, and we’re going to say that his profession is a neurosurgeon. My guess is that his profile will get flooded with responses.

Why else do you think young women shack up with older men? For their looks? For their great personality? No, for their money. Take their millions away and the women will disappear like snow of the 4th of July.

Still not convinced? Why do you think women ask men what they do for a living while on a date? Do you think they care about your profession? Not at all, they want to know how much money they’re making. Say that you’re any kind of doctor, lawyer, engineer, or architect and you’ll see the light go on in their eyes. Say that you’re a dishwasher, work for a burger joint, or shop assistant and that light will dim significantly. Say that you’re only doing this job to put yourself through university, while you’re studying medicine, law, engineering, or architecture and there you go, there’s that light again.

If you’re thinking that I don’t have a high opinion of women, you’re right, I don’t. I’ve seen far too many women giving men the cold shoulder because they have the wrong profession. Or worse, the men don’t even try because they consider the woman out of their league.

How many perfectly good men are out there, who no woman wants because they think they’re not good enough for them?



Which Relationship Has the Best Chance of Surviving?

For some people, it’s easy to find love. They hook up with their high school sweetheart, they meet someone while at university, or during a chance encounter they just click. For other people, it’s not so easy. They look for love in all the wrong places and time after time get disappointed. And then there are those who settle. They don’t fall in love, they never feel that all-consuming passion, they meet someone nice who they are comfortable with and they stay together.

Which relationship has the best chance of surviving?

Couple number one

Betsy and Robert were madly in love. She was beautiful with long, straight raven black hair. He was average-looking. When I first met Robert, I took one look at him and knew he was trouble. I didn’t say anything because what could I say … I’m getting a bad vibe from him. Betsy would have declared me nuts. I was right though. In the first year of their marriage, he forced her to give up her job. In the second year, she expected a baby. In the third year another baby. In the fourth year, the abuse began. Betsy was trapped. With two kids and no job, she had nowhere to go.

Couple number two

Adeline and Tony were an exquisite couple. She was a stunning blonde, he was an attractive guy. They loved each other dearly, anyone could see that, but Adeline was superior to Tony. She had looks, she had brains, a well-paying job, and her own condo. Tony had none of these. While the first year of their marriage was fine, in the second year signs of discontentment became apparent. Tony felt inferior and no matter what Adeline said, she couldn’t convince him that to her they were on equal terms. They are on the verge of splitting up.

Couple number three

Collette and Brian got married in their thirties. Both had relationships but none of them had worked out. Both had given up on finding ‘the one’. When Collette and Brian met there was none of that hearts on fire, they liked each other and got on well, but there was no passion. After six years of marriage, they are doing remarkably well. They admit that their relationship doesn’t have any particular highs and lows, but rather an even satisfying balance.

It seems to me that out of these three couples, Collette and Brian have got it right. While it’s nice to fall head over heels in love, and having a passionate relationship, those feelings usually don’t last. Strong feelings bring on strong emotions such as jealousy, possessiveness, and often violence.

Even if all goes well for a couple, sooner or later that all-consuming passion dies down and they settle into a more calm relationship. It would appear that those who make a commitment with their head and not with their heart stand a better chance of succeeding. Age certainly plays a part in choosing a partner. The very young place value on looks and passion, while the slightly older look for character traits and compatibility. Mature people invariably have their act together. They have a stable job with a good salary, savings, property, and know their worth.

All in all, it would seem that choosing friendship and respect trumps love.




Let’s talk about men

There’s been a lot of talk about men within the past 48 hours.  On-line and off.  I have tried to get my point across and failed miserably.  I can understand why some are confused about me.  On the one hand, I readily admit that I don’t like men; yet in the same breath, I state that I get along very well with them.  How to explain this?  

Jack Nicolson was looking for a few good men. Women all over the world are joining him in that quest. How do women know when they find a member of the male species that it’s a good one?  They can’t squeeze him for ripeness; they can’t examine him (like they would apples and tomatoes) for brown spots showing signs of decay.   It seems to me that women, where it comes to men, are rather reckless.

  • Before taking a job, a candidate can research the company online or talk to past and present employees.
  • Before buying kitchen appliances, most women read the reviews.
  • Before buying clothes or shoes, the chosen item is tried on for fit and comfort.

So why are women who deal with an item they are supposed to keep for life, take a man they meet at face value?  

Some might say they don’t, that’s what dating is for, to get ‘a feel’ for the guy.  True, but not exactly accurate.  How many people – men and women alike – show their true selves while dating?  I think it’s safe to say that before going on a date, a man will shower and shave, comb his hair, and put on something nice.  In other words, he will show himself from his best side.   

If he steps over the line and swears, gets upset or worse gets a little violent, he will state that he was not himself or that ordinary he is not like that.  And women swallow it.  They are so in love that they don’t see the ‘brown spots’.  And even if they do, the sight of the flowers they get presented with, or the size of the diamond in the engagement ring will cloud their vision.   

When I say that I don’t like men, it’s because I’ve seen too many bad apples.  Hence my hesitation to ‘buy’ one.    Over the weekend I talked with Vicky (not her real name).  She got tearful when she admitted to me that she was afraid she was going to end up an old maid.  “Vicky,” I said, “the term old maid is so passé.”  “You know what I mean,” she said, “I’m afraid I won’t find anyone to grow old with, to take care of me.”  

That’s when I started to wonder … why do women get married?  Is it because of love or is it to have some company in their golden years?  Is it for financial reasons?  Is that all that men are good for?  A body to share a space with and to keep the bank account in the positive?  Is that why I steer clear of men?  Because I don’t feel the need for male company and I don’t need to be taken care of?  

Do men feel this when they are in my company? I can laugh and joke around with them.  They know that, unlike Vicky, I don’t want anything from them. I’m not going to chase them and I don’t want to be chased.  They can be themselves, without me being shocked or getting stars in my eyes. Do I get my point across? Do you get it? If you do … great; if you don’t then I guess you have to know me to understand me.