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Let’s talk about men

There’s been a lot of talk about men within the past 48 hours.  On-line and off.  I have tried to get my point across and failed miserably.  I can understand why some are confused about me.  On the one hand, I readily admit that I don’t like men; yet in the same breath, I state that I get along very well with them.  How to explain this?  

Jack Nicolson was looking for a few good men. Women all over the world are joining him in that quest. How do women know when they find a member of the male species that it’s a good one?  They can’t squeeze him for ripeness; they can’t examine him (like they would apples and tomatoes) for brown spots showing signs of decay.   It seems to me that women, where it comes to men, are rather reckless.

  • Before taking a job, a candidate can research the company online or talk to past and present employees.
  • Before buying kitchen appliances, most women read the reviews.
  • Before buying clothes or shoes, the chosen item is tried on for fit and comfort.

So why are women who deal with an item they are supposed to keep for life, take a man they meet at face value?  

Some might say they don’t, that’s what dating is for, to get ‘a feel’ for the guy.  True, but not exactly accurate.  How many people – men and women alike – show their true selves while dating?  I think it’s safe to say that before going on a date, a man will shower and shave, comb his hair, and put on something nice.  In other words, he will show himself from his best side.   

If he steps over the line and swears, gets upset or worse gets a little violent, he will state that he was not himself or that ordinary he is not like that.  And women swallow it.  They are so in love that they don’t see the ‘brown spots’.  And even if they do, the sight of the flowers they get presented with, or the size of the diamond in the engagement ring will cloud their vision.   

When I say that I don’t like men, it’s because I’ve seen too many bad apples.  Hence my hesitation to ‘buy’ one.    Over the weekend I talked with Vicky (not her real name).  She got tearful when she admitted to me that she was afraid she was going to end up an old maid.  “Vicky,” I said, “the term old maid is so passé.”  “You know what I mean,” she said, “I’m afraid I won’t find anyone to grow old with, to take care of me.”  

That’s when I started to wonder … why do women get married?  Is it because of love or is it to have some company in their golden years?  Is it for financial reasons?  Is that all that men are good for?  A body to share a space with and to keep the bank account in the positive?  Is that why I steer clear of men?  Because I don’t feel the need for male company and I don’t need to be taken care of?  

Do men feel this when they are in my company? I can laugh and joke around with them.  They know that, unlike Vicky, I don’t want anything from them. I’m not going to chase them and I don’t want to be chased.  They can be themselves, without me being shocked or getting stars in my eyes. Do I get my point across? Do you get it? If you do … great; if you don’t then I guess you have to know me to understand me.

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Why shacking up before you get married is a good idea

Couples are more reluctant than ever about getting married. Whether they are crazy in love or just seem right for each other, saying those wedding vows that will bind them to each other for life is a risk fewer couples are willing to take. Couples offer the following reasons for why shacking up before you get married is a good idea.

You don’t really know someone until you live with them

Dating someone a few times a week with an occasional sleep-over may give you an idea of their personality, but it doesn’t show you what they are like on a day to day basis.

Little things make a difference

When you live with someone 24/7, you get to experience firsthand how the person handles stress, disappointment, anger, and life in general. For some those little flaws might be endearing, while for others they could become major obstacles.

Avoid taking each other for granted

Others prefer shacking up before marriage because it keeps both partners on their toes. Once married a lot of men and women feel they have it made and overnight develop a careless attitude. They relax to the point that their partner no longer recognizes the person they dated. They may quit their job, put on weight, or generally no longer take care of themselves. By living together, especially in the early stages, there is always the chance of the other calling it quits. That percentage of danger keeps the relationship fresher.

Children and family in the mix

If one or both partners have children, shacking up before you get married is certainly a good idea. The adults may love each other, but can they tolerate each other’s offspring? It worked for the Brady bunch, but it may not work for you if the kids don’t get along with each other which, in turn, puts stress on your relationship. Or the kids might like each other, but you might dislike your partners’ kids.

The same could apply to extended family members. You and your partner may get along perfectly, but inconsiderate parents and difficult siblings could sour the deal.

Sexual compatibility

You might love each other dearly, but are you sexually compatible? While you may have tested the waters already, dating sex and relationship sex are two different things. Your partner’s needs may be different from yours over the long haul or you may discover some unusual requests which you may or may not like.

Maintaining a healthy and compatible sex life over the long-term becomes a challenge for all couples. Shacking up before you get married can be a good barometer of how your sex life will mature if you remain together.

Financial compatibility

Why shacking up before you get married is a good idea also applies to whether or not the couple is financially compatible. She may love to spend money and be addicted to shoe shopping, while he may be hardcore thrifty. When you live with someone it becomes more difficult for them to hide their money habits.

Lower exit costs if the relationship fails

Probably the biggest reason why shaking up before you get married is so popular is because if the relationship doesn’t work out, no divorce is needed. With no lawyers or alimony in the mix, the couple can walk away with a clean slate without spilling as much financial or emotional blood that usually happens during a divorce.

Most people don’t buy a car without taking it for a test drive first. Before making a legal and spiritual commitment to another person, many couples today are opting to go slow and take that all-important test drive first.

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Getting the job

I came across an article yesterday entitled ‘I got my job with my looks, I kept it because I was good at my job’. I had a good look at the writer and while her face was ordinary, her body was the kind that men admire and women envy.

Alicia (not her real name) knew that with limited education and no business experience, her chances of finding a job were slim to none. Oh, she could work in a coffee shop, become a waitress in a bar, or work as a checkout girl in a supermarket, but Alicia had set her sights a little higher. She wanted an office job. A job where she could sit down, a job where she could wear nice outfits, a job that earned her respect. So, she came up with a plan.

Knowing that employers research job candidates online, and that their go-to place is Facebook, she put a few photos of herself on her Facebook page.

She posed in a skimpy black bikini, a long sheer white shirt draped around her shoulders, billowing in the breeze as she stepped out of the ocean.

In another photo she was wearing the same black bikini, minus the white shirt.

In a few others she showed off her ample bosom in various Victoria Secret lingerie, striking seductive poses.

So much for women’s liberation, ladies. We might fight for equal rights but then a little trollop like that comes along and blows us out of the water.

Her plan worked like a charm. When she send her unimpressive resume to company XXX, it took only hours for the manager who needed an assistant to invite her for an interview. She was hired on the spot.

Given the fact that Alicia had no skills to speak of an no practical experience, I wondered how good she could be at her job and what that job was. Was she good at her desk, was she good at the manager’s desk, or was she good under his desk?

Alicia is far from the only one. Marion said more or less the same thing. In a blog post she wrote she stated ‘I was promoted because I was good at my job and being a woman didn’t hurt.’ Hm, exactly what kind of job was she so good at?

Many years ago, job applicants were permitted to attached a photographs to their resume. When it was found that older and less attractive people were discriminated against, photos were no longer allowed.

While at first this seemed like a good idea, precious time was wasted. All sorts of people showed up for interviews only to be discarded based on age and looks. Here and there companies were happy to hire older staff, but the majority preferred young, beautiful puppets. I witnessed this first hand while working for a marketing firm. One of the managers needed a personal assistant and instructed human resources to get him a temp.

The first temp that showed up was a very short and thick set woman with a tight perm and bottom of jam pot glasses. By lunch time she was let go.

The second temp was the complete opposite. A giant of a woman, with muscled arms and legs and a booming voice. After only one day she was gone too.

And then number three showed up. A pretty young thing, with long blond hair, clear blue eyes, a mouth like a cherry, and a body clad in a sheer linen blouse and a skirt the size of a broad belt. It was plain to see that she wore no bra.

Not only was she allowed to stay, by the end of the day the job was offered to her on a permanent basis. 

Retro Cameras

Retro cameras don’t have to be fifty years old. With current technology, you can pack a lot of cutting-edge sensor and processing technology in an old school body. Many retro cameras come with metal dials and textured grips for that vintage feel. Even the inbuilt touchscreens don’t detract from the elegant designs. Perfect for those who love photography with a touch of nostalgia.

Street Photography Tips

The street is where life happens in its most raw, unscripted, and unexpected beauty. Not only the diversity of people, but also their interactions with architecture, machines and each other. It’s the reason why the streets are one of the most interesting and rewarding locations to practice photography. You’ll want to make sure you bring along the right lens, and also know when to adjust your settings in order to coax the most emotion from your subjects.

How to Find the Right Camera

There are many factors to consider when choosing a camera. For now, let’s forget about all the specifications and features available. Ask yourself the following questions: How will I be using a camera, and how often? What do I want to achieve? Which add-ons and accessories does the manufacturer offer? Budget is another important factor, but with technology getting cheaper every day you’re sure to find something that checks all the boxes.

Perfect Travel Camera

Whether you’re backpacking around South America or sailing the Pacific, a camera is a must if you want to record and share your experiences. But which camera, or cameras, should you take? I admit, I’ve been guilty of both over- and underestimating my photography needs on many trips. Hiking up a mountain trail with a full complement of lenses is not fun! So I decided to write down a list of minimum requirements a travel camera should have, with the goal to balance portability, functionality, shot quality and (for the adventurers out there) robustness.